Monday, November 24, 2014

Feel & Eat Better (More Relaxed & True to YOU) This Thanksgiving & Holiday Season

Let's face it: Thanksgiving (and the whole holiday season) is challenging for almost everyone, in terms of healthy eating, balance, and taking care of ourselves.

Why do you think we hit New Years hungry for resolutions? We're hungry to come back to ourselves and to come back to our centers after so much cultural and big-business driven pressure to Indulge, Spend and Expend energy (money as well as our personal reserves).

I've been on a non-mainstream, alternative path for quite some time. I'm not interested in what is normal or mainstream - in fact, those things have been what tend to make me (and most of us) sick and stressed.

I am more interested in what is "mystream" or my way of being and operating optimally. Naturally, when we do things according to what we truly need and desire, we feel better all around. We're more healthy, happy and we make better choices for ourselves.

Seven Ways to Feel & Eat Better (More Relaxed &True to YOU) This Thanksgiving & Holiday Season:
  • Remember: This is a holiday. Family (& all associated stresses) are around. We have a lot to do, including our regular lives. Many of us travel. The food is amazing and too much. The social and cultural programming say "It's only once [sic] a year! Indulge!" Realize you are human. Don't set up unreal expectations. And don't just throw it all to the wind, later feeling huge, stuffed and like total garbage either. The repercussions of doing that reverberate into all kinds of personal guilt, shame and beating ourselves up.
  • Be grateful. It's the Giving of Thanks Day! Gratitude elevates our mood, mindset and energetic vibration (yes, they can actually measure this with machines now!), releases feel-good, calming hormones and brings you back into the present moment, out of all the other thoughts in your mind. Write down 3 things you are grateful for first thing in the morning, before you go to see anyone else or check your phone, and/or right before bed.
  • DO set an intention and write it down. The written word is taken more seriously, even by our own subconscious. How do you want to feel? What do you want to eat? What do you want to enjoy? How do you want to be more yourself this Thanksgiving and holiday season? 
  • Find someone else who's at dinner who has similar intentions and buddy up with them. Social support is HUGE.
  • Get connected with your body. The day before AND the day of. Make time for a yoga or spin class (bring a family member, everyone seems to want to feel healthier these days). Go for a long morning or suggest an after-dinner walk. Breathe fresh air. FEEL your stomach. Ask it if and what it's hungry for.
  • Savor. Make a commitment to be more mindful and to really slow down and enjoy what you are eating. Fully chew and swallow each bite before taking the next. When you're in conversation, pause eating and just be with the other person. There will be plenty of time to eat... it's Thanksgiving. And when you're eating, be with the amazing deliciousness of your food. Get out of your head and enjoy the bounty, after all! Use good judgment with what and how much you eat, but eat what you really want. 
  • Have compassion for yourself. Every day is a fresh day. We all (even when we've done a lot of inner work) seem to expect/dream/hope, in some facet of ourselves, that we'll do it perfect this time. Let that go. You're not perfect. And that's perfect, beautiful and real. Thanks for being you.

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Catching the "Poor Me" Mindset & Two Keys to Changing Your State of Mind

It was the morning before I had to leave and I was feeling heavy. Pouty. Sorry for myself. I knew I'd be working all through the coming weekend and my mind was going all sorts of unfortunate places. "It's everyone else's weekend and I'm going to be WORKING. I'm already tired and the weekend hasn't even started yet. I'm going to be exhausted. My back is probably going to hurt and freak out on me. I don't really want to do this. This is going to be stressful. I'll have to be 'ON' the whole time. I'm not ready for this. I wish I could just stay home and veg..."

I had the honor of being invited to cook and bring my essential oil alchemy to David Cho's Fall Yoga & Meditation Retreat. The Friday morning of, I wasn't feeling it. I found myself dreading what was coming, wanting to curl up and go back to bed.

And then I caught myself.

Not "I caught you doing something bad!" but a catching myself gently with compassion and love. This has taken practice, presence and a keen awareness. But what I was able to shift for myself in that moment, before I even walked in my front door, in a way feels nothing short of world-changing.

At least, it completely changed my attitude, my mood and my experience of the weekend.

Catching myself meant being able to see the stories and the reality I was creating for myself... to see the "Poor Me" dialogue I was telling myself in my head. And to realize that I had a choice. I said to myself, only one block from home and minutes from starting my full-on packing preparations,

"This is not the experience I want to have. I don't want to go in bitterness, heaviness and dread."

It would have been easy to let myself play out my victim "this-is-happening-to-me and I-don't-have-any-choice-in-the-matter" game. But I didn't want to bring that energy to the retreat, for myself or for the other beings there. That was not the experience I wanted to create. That wasn't who I wanted to be.

Ok, self. What experience DO you want to have? How do you want this to go this weekend? How DO you want to feel and show up?

I took a deep breath noticed how hunched my body was. I stood up and straightened my spine. I lifted my heart and chest, letting my shoulders fall down my back. I wanted to go in a spirit of capability, nourishment, service, openness and empowerment. I began walking into the sense of self-knowing I wanted to embody.

I envisioned myself in my favorite red dress, owning it. I let myself feel and swing my hips, feel sexy and alive. I told myself how capable I was, reminded myself that I knew what to do and all I had to do was show up and be me. That was enough. I could trust myself to do that.

I filled my lungs and stretched my arms out, looking up to the sky, feeling somehow bigger, like more was now possible. When I got home, I showered, changed into one of my favorite outfits and put on my most sensual, empowering essential oil Skin Scent.

Did I still have resistance to letting myself shift like that? Yes. But I asked myself to let it happen, to let it be that easy. Change is only as hard as you hold onto your resistance.

Here are two keys I use to change my mind:
  1. I changed my body language. I walked my inner talk until I could feel and believe and be it fully, inside and out.
  2. That morning and parts of the weekend still required me to stay out of my "poor me" stories, which continued to surface. When I noticed them, I took a breath and looked around. I got present. And then I focused on what I was doing, one moment at a time.

The weekend was beautiful. We had our first autumn rain and the air was fresh, cool, earthy, sweet. We were cozy inside. The food was delicious and nourishing. I let myself be me, surprising myself by making $200 just showing up and sharing what I love. I let myself take my time and take care of myself and the whole weekend felt mindful. I connected with and exchanged ideas with a beautiful community of people. By the end, I was tired. And I enjoyed myself.

I like to think that letting myself enjoy is to be "in joy" which is to embrace and experience all of what comes, all of what I feel. To me, that is inner peace.

The next time you catch yourself in a pouty, pissy or poor-me mental space, remember that only you can make you happy. You can change your mind at any time.

All that stuff going on outside of you? It really is happening. But you get to decide how you're going to respond. Your state of mind can be managed and shifted if you allow for the possibility and put your energy towards what you want.

What do you think? What's the most challenging part about this for you? What tricks do you use to help yourself stay present or make the shift?

Monday, October 13, 2014

Ever Set an Exciting New Intention... And then Forget? Seven Ways to Keep Your Mind Where Your True Desires Are

I'd just gotten off a call with my peer accountability buddy, and I was all revved up. (Our calls are largely about hashing through our challenges, looking for our personal truth so that we can move forward with clarity. Great, right?) Well, I had reconnected with a deep desire of mine to write poetry and I was on fire with creativity. I was going to start writing magnificent poems again! I was going to find an open mic night and start reading in front of people!

The next week, 5 minutes before she and I hopped on the phone again, I looked back at my notes and realized I'd completely forgotten to make time to write any poetry, read any poetry, or even think about it. How could I have been so excited and then let it slip out of my mind like that? This was supposed to be an EASY one to follow through on...

Am I THAT preoccupied with the rest of my life and to-do list? So much so that I can't remember to do the things that excite me?

Without judging myself for it, yes.

It's easy to go back to what is familiar, what is safe. It's easy and comfortable to get into a groove, even when it's not a groove that lights you up or is even working for you. Sometimes our grooves make us downright irritable and depressed, and yet we stay in them. For safety, for familiarity, for comfort. It's your (ego) self protecting your (higher, true) Self. Distracting you, finding other things to take care of that feel more urgent, talking you down.

Truth is, your higher Self needs to be let free, needs to play, needs to take chances, be wild, be itself. You won't be truly happy until you are being truly YOU. But our "stay-small, it's safer" self doesn't like change. It's scared. I don't blame it/me/you. Change = The Unknown!

Just because something feels scary or "bad" doesn't mean something scary or bad is happening. Fear is just your body's way of asking you if you're alert and paying attention to what's going on. If you are living and creating changes in your life consciously and intentionally, you surely are. Ask yourself, in the face of fear, "Why am I so excited?" Fear and excitement run on the same circuitry in your brain. Acknowledge the fear and then reframe it for yourself. What about this gets your nervous system so excited?!

So when you feel that inner "Yes" - excitement/fear is a good sign - drawing you towards something bigger in your life, how do you stay connected to that feeling of excitement, of expansion, of truth, without getting sucked into the flow, to-do's, habits and patterns of everyday life?

Here are 7 ways I keep my intentions fresh in my mind:
  1. Post it notes: Leave yourself an inspiring reminder or two or five, wherever you'll see it throughout the day.
  2. Vision boards: Take some creative time to collage together a vision board of what you want, the direction or energy you want to step into, and hang it on your wall.
  3. Changing the background of my phone and computer: Visual cues are powerful. Choose something that will remind you of what you want and why you want it.
  4. Wearing a scent that reminds and aligns me with my intention: I created an entire piece of my business around this, it is so powerful for me! (Alchemist Alex!) I love essential oils the most because I can select ones that change my emotional and energetic states to be aligned with what I want. Double action!
  5. Wearing an awesome outfit, piece of jewelry or makeup: Change the way you look and you change the way you show up. You know how good it feels to look good. Do it for yourself, and do it with intention, so you can show up for whatever it is you're trying to create more of. More money? Dress profess. More active? Wear some sexy yoga clothes. More confident? Rock some heals and lipstick.
  6. Make a playlist: Keep yourself in the right mood and energy. Choose songs that speak to the heart of what you want and sing along!
  7. Set what you need out so you'll see it: Your running shoes. Your journal. A timer. A big beautiful pitcher of water with lemons. Give it a new home so it is out in your space and won't have to remember to remember and be inspired to take action.
What are you going to try? What do you know already works for you? Please share below! I'm always up for learning and trying new things myself...

Monday, October 6, 2014

Activate Your Being - The WOW Talks SF Workshop 10/16/14

I have a feeling you are here to make big shifts in this world. When you want to create change, you must align yourself to support that shift to come through you. You are required to “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”

So how are you being and showing up?

Every moment is a practice of being who and how we need to be in order to live the lives and missions we are here to. If you are not resonating with the frequency of what you aim to create, it is very difficult to create it. Are you pushing or are you flowing?

There are many ways to activate your BEing. The WOW Talks and myself invite you to dip your toes (and nose!) into the world of essential oils and their aromatic and vibrationally uplifting powers. From letting go of negative energies and emotions, to detoxing, to attuning more deeply to your intuition, to increasing your confidence and self-love, essential oils affect our bodies and minds profoundly. They change our vibrations and align us with our visions, purpose and missions.

When you are energetically aligned and activated, you can show up and shine, you can experience fulfillment, and you can create the reality you want to see in the world.

This is an intuitive, hands- and senses-on workshop. You will make and take home your own synergistic essential oil blend to activate your limitless being!

This is a ticketed event! $15 advance/$20 door
Tickets available @

Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Introducing... Alchemist Alex

You've probably seen hints of Alchemist Alex already. And heard me talking about my essential oil Skin Scents and Body Love. But where did that come from? Am I not a coach?

This is what happens when you apply your coaching to yourself: You ask a lot of questions, and you get honest with yourself. And when I asked myself about my current coaching career, what I heard/felt back was: Emotional Eating coaching feels heavy to me, like I'm living tied to the past and a part of myself I'm ready to let go of. I felt like I was pushing around old baggage, dredging up old icky feelings.

So I gave myself some space and permission to explore... what do I love to do? What calls to me? What feels effortless and like I'd do it anyway, money or none?

I am a highly sensitive person. I fell in love with essential oils four years ago when I was gifted a small blue glass vial of Lavender essential oil and I was smitten. The smell was divine and powerful, relaxing and uplifting.

When my massage and yoga couple friends introduced me to their array of essential oils, I just couldn't stop sniffing. Breathing deep. Sighing. Going back for more. It was truly a turn-on. For my senses. For my creativity. For my learning.

I love essential oils because they come from nature, from plants. I LOVE nature. It makes me feel connected to myself and the universe spiritually. It grounds me. It fascinates me. It enlivens and refreshes me. And so do essential oils.

I soon began wearing them as perfumes, because they smelled so delicious. But it was when I bought a guide book and began researching their properties and powers (disinfecting, pain and stress relieving, hormonally balancing, energy clearing, emotionally uplifting) that I really got interested. I began using them with more intention, and creating blends based on the way I wanted to feel and be in the moment. I called this part of me Alchemist Alex.

Our sense of smell is generally an under-appreciated and utilized sense - but it is one of our most powerful, especially in terms of emotion and memory. Think about how many smell memories you have, especially from your childhood or of people you have loved! I've discovered how to use essential oils to anchor me to my intentions, to raise my vibration and to turn on the rest of my senses, including my intuition. I truly am experiencing my sensitivity as a superpower these days!

That's when I realized how all of this is connected. Essential oils are not just a hobby, they are a beautiful, tangible doorway into living the life I've been craving. One of creativity and craftiness, deep conscious thought and intention, natural alternative healing, a sustainable green lifestyle, pleasure and sensuality, connection to my yoga community and with my husband.

I feel like I'm doing something bigger than creating art. I'm inspiring people. I'm creating a way for them to connect with their sensitivity, sensuality and intentions. I'm helping people feel beautiful.

Alchemist Alex at Suka Yoga in Novato, CA
And what do you know... When I started allowing myself to do something that I loved, everything started to flow. I started hosting Essential Oil Blending Parties (the first one sold out!), created our Etsy store, made Skin Scents to be sold in a REAL LIVE yoga studio in Marin, donated samples for a yoga and sound healing workshop in New York, got commissioned to make a custom scent for my coaching colleague's client, and have been asked to create another custom blend for an upcoming workshop on women's health! Whoa I know! It's been a whirlwind at times but the work hasn't felt like work, it's felt inspired.

I want to help you feel inspired. With my essential oil Skin Scents, and through my coaching. I believe the most potent form of clarity you can have is knowing how you want to feel (a la Danielle LaPorte and her Desire Map). I'm using that foundation and bringing all the rest of the tools I know to help you take your life and being to the next level. Maybe in your energy and health. Maybe in your career. Perhaps to find your calling or next step. Perhaps to deepen your relationship.

Essential oils are just one tool in my box. Every client I work with will get a personal blend to match their personal activation and up-leveling. Want to know what else is in my box? Let's talk.

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

4 Reasons to Ditch Lotion for Natural Oils & Have the Most Sensual, Soft, Luscious Skin

If you told me a few years ago that I'd be smearing oils on my skin every day, I would have told you that you were gross and crazy.

And now... that's exactly what I do and I would never go back. My skin is the healthiest, softest, and most glowing it's ever been.

Watch this video to learn:
  • why oils work better than lotions and creams
  • what oils I use to nourish my skin without clogging it
  • and how taking care of my skin this way has been a game-changer for making other healthy changes in my life really stick

Do you have questions? What does your skin care routine look like? What products are you using? How do you feel about their quality? Tell me below! I'm so curious!

Pro Tip: If you're going to start switching over, make it easy on yourself! Finish up what you're already using and try out using oils instead one place at a time, rather than trying to make a drastic switch all at once.

Monday, August 18, 2014

Finding Friends Who Really GET You

I never had close girlfriends growing up. I grew up with brothers and I found guys to be safer, less likely to reject me. Ok, I did have one best girlfriend in high school, but she broke my heart abruptly in college, affirming my distrust and disease in opening up to other females. Anyone else feel like it's hard to get close to other women?

I had friends, sure, but not a "BFF" as I so desperately wanted, someone I could talk about my deepest darkest stuff with. So I felt very alone. And very crazy. And very weird. My best friend was my journal.

Women are social creatures. We affirm each others' experiences, we find power in numbers, and we process emotions with one another. Even when you're naturally an introvert, like me, who needs time by yourself... women friends are priceless. They keep you grounded and sane. They remind you of who you are and what matters, even - or especially - in your toughest moments.

As an adult, I've had to let go of my stories about befriending women. I've had to allow myself to open up to having women friends, to decide that I wanted women friends.

And I've intentionally gone out to find them. Here's how:

Finding Friends Who Really GET You (A Road Map):
  1. Know what you want. Like attracting an ideal partner, it pays to know what you want in a friendship. And then let it go. People don't always look or show up the way you think they will.
  2. Go where they gather. I used to find women's communities and social groups and said yes to invites from friends who I thought would run in the circles I wanted to be in.
  3. Be bold and introduce yourself. It takes some vulnerability and getting out of your comfort zone to make a new, authentic connection. Most people go out hoping for this, so dare yourself to make the first move. Be yourself, not a people pleaser.
  4. Look for 1 person to connect with. Someone you resonate with. Ask them out on a tea/hiking/dinner date AND get it on both your calendars before you leave. Follow up. It's kind of like dating or networking for friends!
  5. Rinse and repeat. Decide what worked and what didn't and get back out there. This is a growing process, remember. Don't take "no" or "busy" personally and don't push something that's not happening. When the right person appears, you'll both feel it and the friendship will blossom in a way that feels natural and easy. Focus on building a community, a network for yourself, not on finding "the one."

Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Sticking to Your Intentions & Goals

In this video, I talk about the power of knowing what you want, of setting an intention, and how to remember to stick to it... usually the hardest part, right?

How often do you say to yourself, "I want to be more grounded/calm/present/relaxed/positive/healthy..." and then real life kicks in and you get to the end of the day and realize you got... distracted. Overwhelmed. Wrapped up. In the flow.

Here is one of my biggest secrets for sticking to my intentions & goals:

Alchemist Alex - our new online shop for Intention-Imbued Body Scents

Here are the scents I mentioned! Bookmark it so you can see when Honey Sunshine, the special scent I gave you a sneak peak of in the video.

Beautiful Traveler

Intention: sense-ual, meditative, connected and spiritual journeying through life, noticing the beauty in all the little things

Aromas: sweet, rich, deep, warm, spice, vanilla, tropical floral, woodsy

Scent of the Ent
(for forrest & nature lovers)

Intention: grounding, inner wisdom & strength, protection, staying clear & centered

Aromas: fresh, piney, spicy, clean, deep, green, earthy, woody, soft, sweet

Delicious Being

Intention: relaxing into who you truly are, letting yourself BE yourself, releasing stress

Aromas: sweet, vanilla, lively, citrus, tropical, warm, woodsy, soft

Are you a believer in the power of intention and knowing what you want? Share with me below - what do you do to remind yourself to stay aligned?

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

One of My #1 Tools to Knowing - and Feeling - Your Body Better

Video below!
One of the biggest challenges women express to me is making time for themselves and the things they know they want to be doing for their body and health.

Here's the thing: When you get sick or your body gives out, you're forced to stop and take a break. That costs a lot of time and energy, sometimes weeks of productivity... but you know what? The world keeps going! Wouldn't it be nice to allow yourself to take your time before you get to the point of break down?

I think about this kind of thing a lot. It's something that motivates me to make time for myself. Let's face it: we spend a lot of time in our heads. It's all too easy to forget about or ignore our bodies. But when we're disconnected from our bodies it's easy to...
  • overeat and feel like crap in our bodies AND about ourselves
  • get into a cycle that burns us out or gets us sick
  • get overwhelmed by our emotions and break down or freak out
  • pull a muscle or put your back out
I've done all of those things. Multiple times. Not being tuned in to my body has even led me to pass out on an airplane! I'm sure you've got stories too. When you're a highly sensitive person... it doesn't take as much to go over an edge.

I can say for sure that I'm not into going over edges anymore. I like balance and feeling good.

The great news is that it's not hard to stay connected to your body, but it does take consistency and making time. I do yoga, I meditate, breathe, visualize... but I want to share with you the key that changed everything for me a few years ago, and that I make sure to get in almost every week now, in some form or another. When I started to do this, it changed my relationship to my body, my energy, my beauty, my eating... really, my whole self.

What do you think? I challenge you - what are you going to do to drop in with your body this week?

Thursday, July 3, 2014

Taking Responsibility For Your Eating (and Choices)... Without all the Guilt

I've had a small hand-made sign next to my desk for the past two years. It says "Take Radical Responsibility for Your Reality." It's become the underlying mantra for every decision I make, every invitation I say yes (or no) to, and every food I eat (or don't). What does it actually mean to take radical responsibility? Knowing what it means has changed everything about the way I take care of myself - and how easy it's become.

For most of us, responsibility equates with obligations, burdens, all the heavy stuff of being an adult that, really, we'd rather be free of...

The idea of taking radical responsibility first resonated for me when I was reintroduced to it as "the ability to respond."


It's an ability that all of us have. While I've spent the last couple of years of my life learning and excepting that I can't really control anything outside of me, I have also, simultaneously, been learning how to respond differently to what is happening inside of me. This was the KEY for me as an unpredictably healthy/out-of-control eater.

"Control my thoughts and feelings? Yeah, right..." I thought control meant restricting myself, holding myself back, depriving myself. Because otherwise, I feared I might lose it one night, never stop eating, and blow up like a freaky obese person. Seriously. And I know I'm not the only one with those thoughts.

What I had to realize what that I needed to stop trying to control everything - starting with myself - and instead, find my feet on the ground and simply notice what was there so I could decide how to deal with it. Reclaim my ability and power to respond. This required me to do some learning and reprogramming of my first-response reactions to things.

Luckily, I love learning and I love knowing myself deeply because it means I can (finally for the first time in my life) trust myself. Feel safe and at home within my own being. Like most of us, I've gone most of my life trying to find trust, safety, love, stability and a sense of belonging (and satisfaction and happiness...) from others without consciously looking for and cultivating those feelings within myself, the one place I do have the ultimate say. This is not our fault. It's the result of being brought up in a consumerist society where we are programmed from birth to look outside of ourselves for happiness and satisfaction.

To stand up and say, "I'm going to decide how I feel and what I want from now on," To me, that is taking radical responsibility.

It requires committing to yourself to look at your own inner programming and habits. It requires getting honest, real, vulnerable and open with yourself. Then you can access your innate ability to respond from a place of grounded, clear awareness and conscious choice.

So how do you stay grounded enough to be clear in your own head, so you can respond with good choices, amidst ubiquitous food and stress?

I see groundedness as the ability to recognize your own two feet on the ground, to see and feel all of your past, your stories, your fears, AND be able to look down and say to yourself "Okay here I am right now, and I'm okay." Maybe you're not where you want to be (aka stressed, lonely or uncomfortable) but if you know where and how you are then you can always do something different.

The willingness to see, with eyes wide open and feet grounded on the floor, and choose, clearly and consciously, how you will respond = claiming and owning one of your greatest powers, Your Response – Ability.

Taking radical responsibility of your eating habits is being aware of your body's hunger, as well as your emotions and mind's stories and desires, and making a grounded choice about what to eat, when to stop, and what not to eat at all. It's knowing why you are eating. I don't mean to take all pleasure out of eating, quite the contrary! Eating for enjoyment and nourishment are my top two priorities! But it's to recognize when eating becomes a distraction, an obsession, or way to check out.

Let me tell you some of my Food Story to illustrate...

When I first started my practice as a Health Coach my focus was on eating for more energy. I was personally eating lots of greens and whole grains, feeling high-energy physically... for the most part. The only problem was that all my stress and little perfectionist self-judgments would pile up at the end of the day and I'd find myself stuffing my face in the pantry almost every night. As healthy as I would eat all day, I would go to bed feeling stuffed, bloated and sluggish, frustrated and disappointed with myself, saying, "That was the last time!"

I wasn't fully taking responsibility for my energy. Emotions, after all, are physical-mental energy too. I wasn't dealing with my negative emotions. I was literally stuffing them down, avoiding them, distracting myself, trying to feel better in the moment. Because I wasn't allowing myself to be grounded, to acknowledge all the things I was feeling and just say "okay here I am right now, and I'm okay," I wasn't giving myself the opportunity to respond to what was going on in my life. Instead I created more anxiety about my anxiety, convinced that if I let it out, it would consume me. That is a victim mentality. But we are not victims of ourselves. All of our actions and behaviors have a positive intention. Some behaviors just aren't serving us anymore.

It was my own coaching training program that helped me to realize that. So I committed to myself to look at my own inner programming and habits. I got honest, real, vulnerable and open with myself. And then, I suddenly had access to use my innate ability to respond, act and behave differently, from a place of grounded, clear awareness and conscious choice. It felt like a miracle. But the ability to respond is innate to every single one of us.

Want to hear some exciting news???

If you're ready to take radical responsibility for your eating and your reality, to feel more in charge and in control of what's going in your mouth, I've got fabulous news for you:

I've taken my most powerful tools and created "In Charge: An 8-week Course on Controlling the Controllable & Letting the Rest Go." Get in control of your eating, deal successfully with stress, and have more freed time and energy to be productive and enjoy yourself. For a limited time, I am beta testing this course for just $500 (that's 2/3rd's off)! Jump on it... is all I can say.

Secondly, I'm laying out an introductory breakthrough package of two 45-minute coaching sessions for only $100, to assist you with stopping your cycle of self-sabotage - eating, health, or otherwise. This is the sampler pack for the curious but tentative. I totally understand how getting started can be, and I believe in clarity through action. You have to try some things to know.

I'm here to make some waves and support you.

If you're ready to take radical responsibility for your health and the places you're feeling stuck, I am your woman, and now is always the best time.

I invite you to take advantage. To find out if we're truly a match, check out my calendar and schedule a Strategy Session with me. I'll help you get crystal clear either way.

Monday, June 23, 2014

When Eating IS the Distraction

One night, home solo for dinner, I make myself a gorgeous plate of lemony greens over fresh whole wheat pasta, snowy with Parmesan cheese. A few of my cookbooks are still open on the table and I start paging through, looking at the pictures and searching for recipes I want to try. Soon, I'm putting the last bite into my mouth and I've barely tasted any of it.

I'm pissed. And disappointed. Despite my intentions and efforts to be more mindful, to be fully present and enjoying the food in front of me, this still happens more than I like to admit. I check the weather (and then my messages and then Instagram) on my phone, or I get absorbed reading the Nutrition Facts on the back of a package. But then I miss the moment, the amazing food in front of me. Studies show that being awake to the process of eating accounts for the majority of the satisfaction you feel. When your mind is distracted, you miss out on feeling satisfied.

You probably know what happens when you don't feel satisfied. You eat more - then or later - because you're still trying to get there. You feel bad about yourself and all your shortcomings. You make promises to yourself you can't keep. You restrict yourself. It's easy to spiral out. That's how I ended up binging on almond butter and cookie dough so many nights. It feels too shameful, too embarrassing, too huge and overwhelming to just change. All the the things you don't feel or don't want to feel, you wind up using food to try to fill or to distract yourself from your mental hunger. And so the cycle self-perpetuates, conveniently creating a problem to distract you from your real issues.

Here's the trick: You don't have to DO anything to change. But you have to BE with your discomfort and the dissatisfaction.

Ok, GRRREAT. That's what most of you are probably thinking. I didn't say this would be comfortable, remember? It's the opposite. The question is: Are you willing to go there and see what happens? I always thought I'd be opening Pandora's Box of Alex's Hot Mess and I'd have a breakdown that would incapacitate me for at least a year. But the most amazing part?  (And I know you know this.) After a good, honest cry, you feel so much lighter.

Here are a few ways you can start allowing yourself to be with uncomfortable feelings in the moment:
  • Crying. I mean it. LET IT OUT. When you hold it in, it becomes tension, it adds to the weight you are carrying around. Emotions are "e"nergy in "motion" - let it move through. Breathe.
  • Running. When I have pent up emotional energy, expending physical energy helps me release. Exhaustion, while not necessary, is potent medicine. Think about a child who plays or cries themselves to sleep. A tired body or mind then shuts down to rest and rejuvenate.
  • Tapping. This is a technique that allows to you accept what is happening instead of judging, resisting or avoiding it. I find the physical sensation to be incredibly grounding. Here's a basic how-to video on how to tap.
  • Writing it out. I don't know where I'd be without my journal, the place I dump out my mind and hash out my feelings. I get such clarity from letting it all out on the page. Write knowing you can always burn it. There is such power in acknowledging for yourself what is really going on. Ask yourself: What am I really needing or hungry for?
  • Voicing it. To my most inner, trusted circle, the people I wasn't afraid (although I still resisted) to cry in front of, people who I knew could just hold space and listen. Find a friend (or two) with whom you can be each others' lifelines. Or a professional you trust.
It takes courage to allow yourself to be vulnerable in this way. What resonates best for you? What are you going to try? Or, are there things here you've already tried that have worked or not worked? Please leave a comment below.

Monday, June 9, 2014

Alone with Chocolate Fudge & Not Afraid Anymore: My Four Big Shifts to Food Freedom

We were sitting around the table, with gorgeous fresh strawberry shortcake sitting in front of us, passing around a jar of chocolate fudge to put on top. Everyone was talking about what they would do with the fudge if they were left alone with it, most agreeing they'd eat the whole thing with a spoon in one sitting. I sat there, almost shocked that I had no desire to eat any more than the tiny dollop in my bowl. Two years ago, I would have eaten myself sick on it every day and night until it was gone. Leave me with it now and I'd put it away in the fridge, no uncontrollable cravings, no feelings of guilt or deprivation. "Whoa," I thought, "I've come a loooong, long way."

Overeating, especially when it feels emotional or mindless (you've checked out of your brain, or something else has taken over), does us a lot of damage. I've interviewed over 40 people about their struggles with food, especially the tendency to binge and overeat, and the physical damage is perhaps most obvious and first to pop into most people's minds when we think about the consequences. The digestive stress and bloating. The lethargy. Worrying about what all that sugar and fat is doing to our health in the long run. Gaining weight... Or living in perpetual fear that we will.

From all those conversations, what struck me at the overwhelmingly most painful, frustrating part - and for me this was the hardest part too - is the repeated blow to your self-esteem and confidence. It's facing a recurring personal failure that undercuts all of the rest of your success in life. It's being smart enough to understand the pattern and yet not being able to stop. It's disappointing yourself over and over again, because you know you know better. It's beating yourself up about not treating yourself the way you want to be... which is still not treating yourself the way you know you want to be. It was enough to wreck my first attempt at a Health Coaching practice two years ago. As an emotional binge-eater, my self-confidence was shot. How could I help anyone else if I couldn't figure it out for myself?

My lack of confidence kept me from building my practice and career for over a year, which - though I didn't see it until I was through it - gave me the space to finally step back from thinking about food all the time (funny how I chose a field that perpetuated that, isn't it?), so that I COULD figure it out for myself. All of the shifts I experienced were influenced by the coaching programs I was participating in as a student, and by coaches I worked with myself along the way.

My Four Big Shifts to Food Freedom:

1. Talking about it, rather than hiding it away. Getting honest and vulnerable in front of the ultimate mirror, another person, someone I trusted to hold safe space for me to show up in all my mess and imperfection. For me this was my partner, and then a coach, and then the people I trained with during my own coach training program. I got support and started creating a network of friends and circles that I knew would see and respect all of me, even when I didn't feel like I could. Eventually, I felt safe enough to share my closet binge-eating story publicly. It was one of the scariest and most liberating things I've ever done. What has inspired me most on this front? Brene Brown on The Power of Vulnerability. Bookmark that one for later.

2. Deciding to take radical care of my body, my vessel and vehicle for experiencing everything else. I started getting massages every week for three months. Dropping into and reconnecting with my body, my energy and physical sensations changed everything. I let myself feel into the times it felt strong, centered and beautiful, instead of dismissing myself as vain or judging myself as shallow. I gave myself permission to enjoy feeling good about myself, and to keep going back to what made my body feel amazing: massage, hula hooping in the park, dance, yoga, walks, baths, laying in the sun, sex, running, eating avocado every day, moisturizing my skin...

3. Letting go of trying so hard: to be so good, to be perfect, to look good, to have it all figured out, to control all aspects of myself... including my eating and my body. I gave myself permission to eat whatever I wanted. Yes, that turned out to be largely healthy stuff like quinoa and kale and almond butter, but I had to stop judging and denying myself the foods I was craving. Like cheeseburgers and chocolate cake, whole milk and cereal. It's true, sometimes I still went overboard. I ate stuff and more than I wished I had. I still do sometimes. But I also stopped making rules about "tomorrow I won't eat/I'm on a diet..." and started forgiving myself, realizing that every "screw up" was a learning experience, an opportunity to remember to check into my body for its hunger, fullness and needs, and not just what my mind was saying.

4. Learning to feel and be okay with my uncomfortable emotions. I used to act passive-aggressive (I was a master at the silent martyr role) when I was unhappy or wanted something to be different... I never knew how to express my unhappiness and ask for what I wanted and needed. So I either stuffed all the "bad" stuff, my anger, loneliness, sadness, fears, disappointment, and stress down with food, or I knotted it up as tension in my shoulders, neck and back. I worked with an emotional intelligence coach to help me learn techniques for processing, expressing and releasing my emotions... and even though I was initially terrified I'd be opening Pandora's Box of Perpetually Overwhelmed Hot Mess, I found that once I let myself experience an emotion, it would release. And I could move on SO much more easily. For the first time in my life, instead of being on a ruthless roller coaster or a ship lost in an unpredictable sea, I have a sense of clarity, groundedness and strength that feel like the rooted tree of my being, my emotions just being weather.

These shifts are more like practices I've chosen to live by - they are still things I consciously and intentionally cultivate and practice in my life. It doesn't go perfectly and smoothly, but I've learned to treat myself and my body as a priority (or else nothing else or nobody else gets 100%) and, when that falls through, with compassion and kindness, as you would a friend. I know how long and hard some of you have been struggling to figure it out, to will yourself back into willpower. I feel you. I felt for my friends as they sat around the table that night, laughing about their inability to resist the jar of fudge. Because I suddenly knew, for myself - even though I'd thought for most of my life that surely there was something wrong with me - that another way of living is possible.

I'm creating right now... coaching programs, free guides, sugar detoxes, online webinar trainings. I know what's worked for me, but I know we don't all have the same experience. Please share below or write to me and tell me what you want and need. What are your burning questions? What are you dying to experience differently?

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Why TV Doesn't Count As Down-Time

Have a lot of stress in your life? Do you often feel carried away by anxiety or worries? Do you judge yourself and others way more than you'd like to admit? It's this kind of emotional baggage that leads some of us to stuff ourselves with chocolate or potato chips at night. Or to snap at our partners. Or put our back into spasms. Where does all that junk come from?

Yes, it's in our heads... but we weren't born this way! We've picked it up from all the things we see and hear around us: our families, television, the internet, billboards, books, teachers, movies, social media. As adults, we have more of a choice about the Programming (this was what TV shows used to be called!) that we feed our brains.

What we watch becomes part of our memory and reality. You can't "unsee" or "unfeel" something. Maybe you've noticed, like me, that your own fear-based, judgmental, and self-deprecating thoughts are relatively quick to rise and take you down a dark vortex in your mind compared to your positive, ease-full thoughts. Maybe you've noticed we live in a world that exists in an almost perpetual state of worry and anxiety. And for many people, TV shows, movies and social media have become a main resource for decompressing and mindless escape. Problem is, it isn't mindless.

Many people tell me that they watch TV in their down time especially to relax. Down time is, by definition, time to turn off, to shut your brain and body down for a while so you can rejuvenate. We're not meant to go-go-go all day - that creates chronic stress. Most media plays to that familiar state of mind, keeps us tapped in to our fear so we don't get "lazy" or "fat". Problem is, stress-inducing media doesn't relax you, no matter what you tell yourself. Sure, maybe it does serve as a distraction. But even distractions, while they've got our attention, have their influence on us. When fear-laced TV programming becomes something you consume daily, you are feeding the stress cycle, the same one that may be driving you to mindlessly or emotionally overeat or to turn to "shopping therapy".

Just as I don't recommend watching Cupcake Wars or The Biggest Loser if you want to think about sweets and hate your own body less, by the same token - and especially if you are highly empathetic, sensitive or introverted - I don't recommend you feed your brain violent, sensationalized, or suspense-driven media. What kind of messages are you sending yourself?

When I started really paying attention to the way certain TV show and movies made my body feel (tense, shallow breathing, squirmy), I stopped wondering why I couldn't break free from my stress, my tight shoulders and neck, my midnight mind spins and my anxious late-night food-stuffing sessions. When I started being more selective about what I'd watch, there was suddenly more space to cultivate more of the emotions I DID want... relaxation, ease, clarity.

The great news is that once you acknowledge the power of the media you consume, you can choose to watch, listen to, read and browse from sources that will truly serve the life and mind states you want.

How to Get More Conscious About Your Consumption
(A Simple 5 Step Exercise):

  1. Take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. Draw a horizontal line about a quarter of the way down. In the top left box write: "How I Don't Like Feeling" and make a list of all the ways you feel right now that you don't enjoy (ex: stressed, irritable, restless, not good enough, tense, etc).
  2. In the top right box write: "How I Want to Feel" and write a list of all the ways you want to be feeling as the ultimate version of yourself (ex: confident, happy, relaxed, flexible, easy going, etc).
  3. In the bottom left box, list of all the media you consume on a regular (weekly) basis. Things like movies vary more, but write down what is typical for you when you do watch.
  4. In the right column next to that list, make note about how you feel (what you think about, how your body responds, etc) AND the core messaging you pick up on in that media. Stay open to the idea that you might not be fully aware of how each makes you feel, so start to pay attention this week as you watch, read and listen. Observe your body's responses (emotions are physical energy)!
  5. Cross compare your lists. Are you "eating" (watching) to create the state you want or as a reaction to the state you're in? Decide whether it's worth it to you to keep watching, or whether you want to watch something like it in the future. Maybe you're in the middle of a gripping series that you know isn't really evoking the energy you want to be creating more of in your life. Don't judge yourself for wanting to finish it. Maybe you notice you go into comparison/judgement mode on Facebook. You don't have to delete your profile to have a different relationship to it. Just stay conscious about what and how you're engaging, moving forward.
I know this can feel edgy for a lot of us - it was, and still is sometimes for me too. Sometimes it means telling my partner he should go see a movie without me if he wants to see it. We can be really attached to our devices and our favorite flavor of brain food. But watching something on a screen is NOT down time. Down time rejuvenates. Watching a screen is engaged brain-body-emotional activity.

Tell me below: What has this illuminated for you? What challenges, obstacles or questions are coming up? What "yeah, but"s?

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

4 Ways to Show Your Body You're On Its Side

Do you wish you could love and accept your body the way that it is? That you could be on the same team, at least? This can feel like a mountain to overcome for many women, maybe even a pipe dream. I didn't always love my body, in fact, I've spent most of my life feeling embarrassed by it and furiously locked in a battle trying to control its shape and urges.

What you focus on expands. We all see what we believe to be true. We love to be right (and who doesn't more than our ego?) and so we look for evidence, usually completely subconsciously, to prove to ourselves right. If I believe my body is disgusting, all day I notice every little bulge and blemish, I feel worried or guilty about almost everything I eat, and I compare and judge myself against every woman I see.

Be honest: How much of your inner dialogue, time and energy get wasted on beating yourself up? How much of your life, your opportunities and your potential are you missing out on because you're feeling bad about yourself? I talk with a LOT of women and this is something almost all of them say they're sick of wasting their energy on.

What would it be like to stop battling your body and to partner with it instead? If letting yourself love your body is too big a step (and PLEASE don't feel bad - we've all got a lifetime of cultural programming to undo), can you at least agree to take a deep breath and start seeing it more like a friend? Here are four ways to show your body you're on its side:
  1. Dress your body. Figure out what time of day you feel your best (when you get home in the evening, right before bed?) and lay out your outfit, including jewelry and shoes, for the next day. This says to your body: "You are worth the time and forethought."
  2. Adorn your body. Wear a little something extra: A scent (try Ylang Ylang or Jasmine essential oils for their sensualizing qualities), a fancy necklace, your grandma's ring, a luxurious scarf, some bright lipstick or eye makeup, sparkly glitter, or flowers in your hair! This says to your body: "You deserve the extra bling."
  3. Decorate your body. Give yourself a manicure. Get yourself a henna tattoo (try tibetan shops for tubes to DIY or do it with friends). This says to your body: "You are a piece of art."
  4. Moisturize your body. Every day I smooth my whole body with sweet almond or coconut oil (get at your grocery store). This says to your body: "I care how you feel."
What one thing are you going to do this week to be more of a friend to your body? What do you want to express to it? Please share! We are all in this together. We have all been taught to hate and shame ourselves and each other publicly, which means coming into new relationships with our bodies will require us to speak out loud and support one another. There is space to begin right here:

Tuesday, May 13, 2014

Soothe Your Skin: My Edible Face Mask

I believe in putting on your skin what you would want in your body. Our skin is notably porous: it sweats out toxins but it also takes them in. What you put on your skin MATTERS because a hefty portion of it ends up in your bloodstream!

Do you want toxins and chemicals in your blood, many of which are proven hormone disruptors and linked to cancer. Would you take a lick of your perfume or lotion? Just asking.

It's all over the internet that your skin absorbs 60% of what you put on it. While I'm a healthy skeptic at heart, and can't believe it would be that simple or cut and dry (and I can't seem to track down the source itself), I do believe it's important to consider what you're slathering directly onto your largest organ. I'm a huge advocate for reading nutrition labels AND for reading the labels on the back of your body products.

I've been researching all-natural, organic food-based face masks, and have tested my first recipes! I treated myself to one (well, two... the first was a near disaster) face masks this past Sunday...

The first one burned my face! I'd mixed up a concoction of oatmeal, green tea, honey, cinnamon and a squirt of aloe. The cinnamon is most suspect: I'd read that it has potent anti-inflammatory effects on the skin... and I'd also read to test some on the inside of your arm first (did not = mistake) and my face started burning and turning bright red almost immediately. So I washed that right off and looked for something more soothing.

Bingo. My second mask was not only much more soothing and simple, it was DELICIOUS! I ate all of the extra with my fingers! It has only 3 ingredients: Yogurt, Honey and Avocado. It left my skin feeling supple, dewy and fresh. I could feel and see the healthy glow.

Check out these amazing benefits!
  • Yogurt: loaded with vitamins and minerals, it replenishes withered skin, brightens and evens out skin coloration, moisturizes and nourishes, and its anti-bacterial and anti-microbial properties are great for breakouts.
  • Honey: protects your skin from free radicals, hydrates, is anti-inflammatory, and promotes new skin cell formation, which slows down the aging process!
  • Avocado: it's healthy oils deeply hydrate, replenish and protect skin cells, and vitamin C builds collagen to keep your skin strong and elastic

Sweet Green Beauty Edible Face Mask

2-3 tablespoons plain yogurt
1 tsp honey
spoonful avocado

Mash everything into a spread (mine wasn't completely smooth, you can see by how it dried) and spread it on your face, even under your chin and on your neck. Let dry for 15-20 minutes (read, have a snack, relax) and rinse off with lukewarm water. Gentle enough to do 2-3 times per week. Great for dry, oily, tired and breakout-prone skin. Enjoy!

Want to know more? Check out this resource: 10 Foods That Belong on Your Face!

Thursday, April 24, 2014

Smell Good Feel Good with Essential Oils: 8 BodyMindSoul Boosters

I've been dabbling. Ok, so I dabble all the time. In body work (massage, acupuncture, network care, directional non-force technique chiropractic, sound healing...), in ways of eating (raw, paleo, vegan, slow food, seasonal, pastured meats, green smoothies...), in meditation (yoga, conscious dance, guided visualizations, zen, breath work...), I like to explore!

Why do I try all these wild things? I'm curious. I want to feel amazing. I love and respect my body. I want to live fully expressed. It's good for me to stretch out of my comfort zone and try new things. But mostly, I just want to know what works and feels best for me.

Dabbling is like dating. You make a date, show up, feel it out, see if the sparks fly, and then decide if you want to make another date. Over the past year of dating around, I've fallen in completely in love. I've been building up a relationship with them for over a year now.... Essential oils! Aromatherapy.

I've been using my sensitivity as a superpower to enjoy smelling more of life! Not to mention the amazing biochemical effects of using oils...

I was given my first tiny sample bottle over a year ago - and I was instantly hooked. It was a spicy blend of cinnamon, clove, orange... I can't remember every oil that was blended into the little bottle the size of my thumbnail, but I was smitten. I've been collecting oils ever since. Just a few months ago I received a Raindrop Technique massage, a powerful essential oil-based balancing and detoxing treatment. I was blown away.

And then it happened. Or, rather: I chose it. I said yes:

Last week I joined the Young Living essential oils family. I am now an aromatherapy consultant and am bringing oils to my coaching clients and friends! Essential oils are plant-derived and all-natural, though potent and powerful medicine in many cases. They can be used for refreshing and healing the skin, helping with digestion, boosting the immune system, relaxation, sleep, mental clarity and enhancing spiritual connection. Amazing, right?

Yes, skeptics might say there's some placebo effect in action. But at the end of the day, that's fine with me, because the placebo EFFECT is still real. And I've been feeling the effects firsthand. Not only has my body been loving them but I notice them effecting my mood, mental state and sense of intention, focus, ritual and self-care.

My 8 Favorite Essential Oils & Blends:
  1. Lavender: Versatile, gentle, cleansing and soothing for the skin. Relaxing, balancing, calming. Love to drift off to sleep with it and add it to my face moisturizer.
  2. Frankincense: Rejuvenating to the skin! It smells earthy, spicy, piney. Calming, it can increase spirituality and inner strength. Love it on my face and to enhance my sense of grounding and connection to center.
  3. Lemon: Boosts the body's natural defenses (you can eat it & cook with it)! A fresh, instant pick-me-up, promoting energy and mental clarity. Love 1-2 drops in my water bottle and salad dressing!
  4. Peppermint: Oh clear freshness! Supports digestion and eases tension. Uplifting and energizing aroma. Love it for when I get headaches from staring at screens too long.
  5. Ylang Ylang: (say ee-lang ee-lang) Relaxes the mind, balances masculine and feminine energies (your inner hustle and flow). Emotionally uplifting, helps control negative feelings such as frustration and anger. Love it daily to keep me balanced and flowing.
  6. Peace & Calming: My favorite blend, just look at the name! Deeply relaxing, promotes peaceful sleep. Keeps me calm and sane. Love to wear it... always. (Contains Tangerine, Ylang Ylang, Blue Tansy, Orange & Patchouli.)
  7. Thieves: Powerhouse blend that defends, protects and supports the immune system. Anti-bacterial, -viral, -septic, and -fungal! Cleans my kitchen and bathroom. Love it for traveling. (Contains Clove, Cinnamon, Rosemary, Lemon & Eucalyptus.)
  8. Joy: Creates magnetic energy, uplifts the heart and soul, raises your frequency. Love to diffuse it to set the tone of my day or the mood of a social gathering. (Contains Bergamot, Lemon, Palmarosa, Ylang Ylang, Rose, Geranium, Jasmine, Roman Chamomile, Coriander & Tangerine.)
If you're curious and would like to know how you can smell good AND feel good, contact me for an aromatherapy consultation (you'll get some coaching too!) and to order oils.

Other uses for Essential Oils (so your mind can run wild with ideas):

  • to alleviate menstrual cramps and support a regular cycle
  • to release stuck emotions and trauma
  • to open your chakras
  • to treat eczema, acne and reactive skin
  • to ease depression and anxiety
  • to increase sensuality
  • to decrease cravings and blood sugar imbalances
  • so that everyone will tell you that you smell amazing!!!

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

The BEST motivation to be good to yourself, EVER.

Is anyone else feeling some old frustrations coming up this month? I want to tell you a story...

I had a healthy and thought-provoking conversation recently with a woman, whom I'll call Emily. When we first sat down, she told me that her intention and ongoing project for this year is to step into the full expression of herself. (Whoa, awesome!) She told me about her desire to embody more of the divine feminine.

When I asked what that meant to her, she described to me a powerful woman, sitting up straighter in her chair and suddenly looking quite divine herself. "She just has this aura, this powerful presence. She knows who she is," she said, motioning in the air around her relaxed shoulders as if she was glowing. (Was she?)

I was intrigued and impressed. That sense and aura of power, of confidence and ease, of knowing what you want and need... yes, wanting that is very familiar to me. It's very familiar to all of my clients. To know and declare that is what you want is DEEP.

The core reason we were talking was because Emily was stuck around her diet. She is a health-conscious young woman, she loves food, but actually stocking her kitchen and making healthy, simple, easy meals happen... it wasn't. She knew she was cheating herself on this. Her sugar cravings are going wild, her skin is breaking out, and - maybe most significantly - she feels bad about it. It undermines her confidence and power. She told me with a sigh, "I know what to do, I have all the kitchen equipment, I'm just not doing it."

I asked her, "So how does this divine feminine, fully expressed woman you are stepping into this year, how does SHE want to feed herself? What does she do in her kitchen?"  Emily's eyes got wide. She hadn't connected those two pieces.

When I first committed to get truly healthy and take radical loving care of myself I didn't really know why it was so important to me either. I knew I needed to feel better and heal my gut. I wanted to have more energy. It only hit me recently that being healthy was the foundation for me to step out and follow my heart, to take risks in my business, and to get the most out of life. To find and know and express myself. That was the real reason I moved to San Francisco 4 1/2 years ago. And knowing what being healthy means to me is the BEST motivation EVER to be so good to myself in all my choices every day.

When we allow ourselves to know WHAT we want and WHY we want it, we can then see what we require to become that. And we give ourselves a powerful and meaningful anchor for the daily choices we make.

So who was this woman I have been imagining I want to become? I challenged myself one morning and this is what I wrote...

She walks tall and proud - not because she thinks she's all that - but because she knows herself and knows she's doing the best she can and that's good enough.
She knows that beauty comes from living in your truth, in choosing to allow yourself to be turned on by life, by sensations, by feelings, by being vulnerable and unafraid of mess.
She knows what she wants and she knows she has the power to make it real.
She's purposeful, intentional, thoughtful, awake and aware.
Her body is toned and strong, supple and flexible.
She knows what she brings to the table and how much it means to other people.
She knows what she's worth.
She's financially free, abundant and organized.
She's an unabashedly sensual and sexual being.
She's deep and watchful, expressive and artsy.
She's open and learning and constantly readjusting and she doesn't take anything too seriously.
She laughs easily, cries easily and feels opened and relieved after both.
She savors her food, eats mindfully and slowly, and only when she's hungry... or wants a taste.
She takes care of herself and doesn't worry about making other people feel uncomfortable.
She takes her time.
he listens to her body and her intuition.
She knows and loves her friends and makes quality time with them regularly.
She celebrates life.
She feels at peace in the world, in the universe, with her place in the cosmic unfolding.
She loves and supports her family roots and they love and support her back.
She is grounded and centered, she dances.
She loves fresh flowers and vegetables, nature and trees and lakes.
Her art is a celebration of life.
Her movements are a reflection of what she wants to create in the world.
She believes all things are one, all things are whole, all things are connected.
She calls herself a fascinating creature.
She calls herself Alex.
She calls herself beauty.
She calls herself deep.
She calls herself love.

We all MUST start with getting clear about what we want. Is there something that's been dragging on you in your lifestyle or health? Something you feel like you should have figured out by now, that you can do, you just haven't put in the effort yet? When you're feeling like "I should be able to do this myself!" that's a tell-tale sign to get someone on your side so you WILL make it happen, my friend.

It's easy to miss the parts that are holding us back and keeping us looping back into old patterns until someone else holds up the mirror. Change can happen just by seeing something new.
I'm offering a few different Spring coaching specials (ridiculously awesome deals) right now. If you're feeling frustrated or stuck in a rut (or on a roller coaster), I invite you to PLEASE put yourself into my calendar for A Healthy Conversation. It's a free coaching session, it's a consultation, it will put you back in the driver's seat. Let's get you to clarity together.